My Fry Baby

So it seems my 16-year-old son Luke is an aspiring fry cook. Quite by surprise a few weeks ago he announced that he had been hired to work in the kitchen at a nearby restaurant. Why in the world his $10 a week allowance didn't seem to be enough I don't know. But hey, he's grown into a young man, and I figured it wouldn't hurt him to learn what it's like to have the responsibility of a job.

I myself had such a job when I was his age -- working all the stations at my local Burger Chef preparing sandwiches, tending to the salad bar, assuming cashier duties on the front line, and of course the incessant sweeping, wiping down the tables, emptying out the trash and other general cleaning duties (including washing a dish or two).

However, after just a few weeks, I'm thinking I'm not so crazy about his work arrangement.

My son: master fryer and king of the sampler platter.

Not that I'm not proud of him. He's undoubtedly a hard worker. And when he comes home each night wreaking of grease, I simply hold my nose and overlook the stench (and of course encourage him to get into the shower as soon as he can).

I think it's' just that I miss him being around . I guess I enjoy his presence more than he knows -- even if we're not necessarily saying anything to each other but merely co-existing in the same space.

Since my middle son was just a baby, he has always been he one with the calming presence. I remember so vividly the times when he was a baby when I might get upset or frazzled. All it would take to soothe me was to pick him up and hold him for just a few minutes.

Even now, in the midst of what are sometimes chaotic situations, Luke brings a certain equilibrium to the household. When everything else around me is going crazy, Luke's demeanor helps to settle things down a bit.

So now his restaurant job is taking him away from me. But even more, I fear that it could get in the way of other things I deem more important in his life -- namely school and his extracurricular activities. I figure he has his whole life to work. Though I'm sure going back to a $10 a week allowance won't be easy.

Still, I'm confident that once school starts, he will set his priorities accordingly. He does have a pretty good head on his shoulders, so I trust him to do that. Plus I really don't want to see him blow his 4.0 GPA because he's out late every night frying up chicken wings and cheese sticks (and let's not forget the fried pickles either).

Not that this hasn't been a good experience for him. I'm glad he's learning what it's like to work hard. But honestly, I'm ready for my Fry Baby to come home and join his family at the dinner table every night for slightly healthier fare.

So to my son I offer this assurance. When the day comes that you get totally sick of the burgers and wings and fries, your mother will be here for you.

I'll always have broccoli waiting for you at home.

What to Do with my Ruger Twenty-Two?

With my dad being a law enforcement officer, it’s an understatement to say that he’s a gun guy. He has the whole gamut – 45’s, 22’s, 9 mm, shotguns, rifles, and whatever else those gun folks make. Needless to say, he’s amassed quite a collection.

So last spring when we were home for Easter, I went out with my dad (and my husband and boys) to the shooting range to pop off a few rounds just for the heck of it. I have to admit, it was kind of fun.

Now I’ve never been much into guns, but I did

Don't know what to do with your Ruger 22? Make a business
card holder out of it!

find the whole shooting experience to be quite exhilarating. It had been 20 years or so since I had used any sort of firearm. Was it like riding a bicycle, where you just pick up where you left off? Well, not really. It did seem awkward at first.

Probably because I learned off the bat that a 45 is definitely too much gun for me. I only shot the 45 a couple of times, because that’s all I could bear. The kick from the blast was so powerful I swear it almost broke my wrist! The 9 mm and 22 were much better.

My dad was all too glad to show me the proper procedures for shooting these weapons. And he knows what he’s doing, I guess. He taught concealed carry courses for years. Business was especially good for him once President Obama was elected. Apparently, folks were so concerned about Obama taking away their guns they made a mad dash to earn their concealed carry permits. To my knowledge, the whole “take away our guns” thing never came to fruition – but it’s always good to educate yourself about the weapon you’re carrying, no matter what the motive.

So after our shooting session ended, my dad showed me a handgun that caught my eye. A sweet little Ruger 22. It’s a cute little gun. Once I saw it I wanted it.

Of course, there are probably many other things on my wish list that I would rather have than a gun. And owning a gun is something I never really thought about until a couple of years ago. Two houses, both within two doors of ours, were broken into and burglarized within days of each other – both in broad daylight, while the owners were gone.

Yikes! That was a little scary. I wondered what would happen if our house was next? At that time I was home during the day. What would I do if burglars came crashing through my window when I was home alone? That’s the first time I ever considered maybe procuring a gun for personal protection. Fortunately, it was only a matter of time when, through their own stupidity, the culprits were nabbed. Yep – young, misguided kids in their early 20s, one whose mother lived just a block away. Anyway, after the crooks were caught, my panic died down.

I didn’t give any more thought to the gun thing until a couple of months ago, when my dad and husband attended a local gun show. Later that day, after they had arrived back, I was in my office only to find a box with the label “Ruger” plastered on it. I peaked inside, and there it was. A sweet little Ruger 22.

My husband went through all the legal channels to get it – he completed the paperwork, went through the background check, etc., and he managed to procure the piece without any trouble whatsoever. (I’m not sure why common sense gun control is such a contentious issue, especially when it comes to assault rifles and high volume magazines, but I suppose that’s a debate for another time.)

So now I’m the proud owner of a Ruger 22. The question now is, what do I do with it? I take it out of the box every once in a while and look at it. At this point, that’s about it. My husband tells me that the next time we go down to my parents’ house, we’ll have my dad take us out to the shooting range again, and I can learn to shoot it there. Okay.

But in the meantime it would be nice to get some practical use out of it.

Sooooooo, what can I do with it? Use it as a paperweight, maybe (without the bullets, of course)? Or maybe I could hang it on the wall. Nah. I would need a gun rack for that, and this little handgun is too small for a gun rack.

I know! I’ll stand it up on end and put a little flower into the barrel – get a “war and peace” theme going. Or I can stand it up on end and use it as a display for my business cards. Now I’m thinking creatively! That will work – at least until I learn to shoot it.

But once I learn to shoot it, what do I do with it then? Take it places? Where? I can’t take it to work with me, as there are no guns allowed in my workplace. (Which is understandable, but I still carry pepper spray, because the garage I park in is kind of creepy). Church? Oh, please! Sporting events? Pretty sure weapons aren’t allowed there, either.

Guess for the time being I’ll just admire my virgin Ruger 22 and keep it at home. I expect sometime I’ll get to shoot it. I’ll just chalk this little device up as home protection.

Not to say using it as a business card display isn’t a good idea. If I think about it, I’m probably better at shooting words rather than weapons, anyway.

My keyboard is my true ammunition. And the Ruger 22? It’s a nice little “lady gun” if I ever saw one. I admit, I can’t wait to shoot it. But hopefully, I’ll never have to use it. Which would probably be for the best, because I don’t envision myself ever having the fastest trigger finger.

Not that I don’t have triggers in my life. Triggered thoughts? Triggered dreams? Triggered ideas? Triggered passions? Sometimes I fear the atrophy of those, but I suspect they’re in me somewhere.

On occasion I just need some time away from the chaos to clear my head. So who knows? Maybe an afternoon at a shooting range, plunking off a few rounds with my Ruger 22, is all I need.

Guess I’ll give it a shot. Literally.

Why It's OK to be Gay

Whether you’re for gay marriage or against it (or whether your views on the issue are still evolving), there’s no denying that the whole gay marriage trend seems to be on a fast-moving roll these days. More than a dozen states have legalized gay marriage, and those that haven’t as of yet are eking out progress in other ways.

For instance, a recent ruling in Ohio (where gay marriage is banned) determined that same sex marriages performed in a “gay marriage” state must be recognized as marriages in Ohio. Whether that ruling will stand I don’t know. But it does indicate we as a society seem to be moving (albeit, some more slowly than others) forward rather than backward on this issue.

Hell, even Utah’s ban on same sex marriage has been jeopardized after a federal judge recently struck down that state’s voter-approved ban. Can you believe it? Utah! Living in ultra-conservative Kentucky, I was always of the opinion that hell would freeze over before the constitutional ban on gay marriage would be lifted here. Now there’s hope that maybe things will turn around in my lifetime.

As you might have guessed, I’m elated where we are now – in a time where we are finally engaging in some serious, intellectual dialogue about the virtues of marriage equality. I’ve always been of the opinion that same sex relationships can be just as faithful, beautiful, familial and normal as anybody else’s heterosexual relationship.

And for those who argue that gay marriage somehow violates the sanctity of traditional marriage, I quip that it’s not fair to blame gays and lesbians for ruining the sanctity of marriage. Check out the too high instances of infidelity and domestic violence in many of those traditional relationships. No – if we want to blame anyone for ruining the sanctity of marriage, we can point the finger at straight people for that.

Some may wonder how it is that I am from the Bible Belt of East Tennessee and can possess such progressive views on this topic. There is an irony here. Perhaps if certain adversity not smacked me in the face early in my youth, my views would have had a more traditional lean. But it was a small little high school in a very conservative area of the country that shaped my liberal views about gay rights and gay marriage. And of course, the vicious rumor that swirled out of thin air about me during my freshman year of high school also played a big part.

It was the winter of 1980 at West Greene High School in Mosheim, Tennessee. A friend of mine was distraught about some troubles she was having at home and she decided she was going to leave town for a while. Between classes I went to the locker room just in time to find her cleaning out her locker. All of my other friends were there too. We all took turns hugging her goodbye. Some of us cried. We went to class, not sure if we’d ever see our friend again. And that was that.

The next day I found out. Turns out I was the last one to find out. It was all over the school that me and my friend had been seen “making out” in the locker room. I had wondered why people were looking at me funny that day, and when a friend finally told me about the now widespread rumor I finally knew.

I wracked my brain as to how that could have happened. How could a simple hug goodbye be turned into a sexual soiree? And why was I the target of the rumor? My other friends were there too doing the same thing. Guess I was just an easy target.

The whole thing didn’t even make sense. I was a pretty shy, reserved person. Didn’t anyone know it would be totally out of character for me to blatantly “make out” with anyone in such a public place as the locker room?

Common sense didn’t seem to be a factor here, though. And when that day fell upon me, that’s when the hell that I’ll call the rest of my high school years commenced.

How was a 14-year-old girl supposed to handle such a thing, anyway? Especially in that ultra-conservative climate.

After the rumor started, I remember reacting to it with an almost stoic demeanor, viewing it as something surreal. Just a bad dream where I would eventually wake up. Sure, I saw the stares, and heard the giggles behind my back, but it was just a matter of staying strong. I certainly wasn’t going to do anybody the justice of showing my pain.

After school hours, though, I wasn’t so stoic. Hours upon hours were spent locked in my bedroom, each night weeping what seemed to be thousands of tears until my body had no more tears to shed. “Why, God?” I would ask. “Why me?” And every morning in those first few weeks it would take every ounce of strength that I had to enter through those school doors and face another day. Of taunting, and teasing, and strange looks.

I found out that a rumor just doesn’t die away. Sometimes it goes fallow for a while. But then it always tends to rear its ugly head when you least expect it. A rumor can dog you for years, if not the rest of your life. It leaves emotional scars, even decades after the fact.

After the initial hubbub died down, the next few years were just a matter of being prepared for that occasional insensitive remark that somebody might fling in my face. The rumor evolved to include many versions. My friend who was targeted in the rumor with me left the school after my freshman year, so I was left to weather it all alone. It was always that I had either been seen in the lockers, the bathroom, or the parking lot doing something inappropriate with another girl – yet the “other girl” was always unnamed.

As for me, I did anything I could to not give people a reason to talk. Going through crowded halls between classes was stressful in itself, for fear that I might accidentally bump into or brush up against someone who would then make something out of nothing of it by accusing me of touching them inappropriately.

The whole episode left me bitter. There were kids there who laughed at me, who lied about me, and who were cruel to me. Needless to say, graduating and getting out of town was a relief. I wish the whole thing would have never happened.

But maybe there was a reason why it did. That comes back to how my beliefs evolved and why I believe the way I do today.

There are those who contend that being gay is not only a choice, but also a choice that is highly immoral.

I disagree. And I only have my own experience to draw from. As someone who is wholly straight, I can’t claim that I understand what it’s like to be gay.

But I do understand what it’s like to have everybody looking at me and thinking I am.

Just from gauging the way I was treated, I don’t think anyone would choose that.

My belief is that God wants people of all mixes here in this world. And it goes beyond just races and religions. It also includes varying sexual identities.

As far as I’m concerned, same-sex couples who make it legal (at least in an increasing number of states, and maybe all states within the next 20 years) are just as traditionally married as any so-called “traditional” couple. What’s more, whether a same-sex couple is married or not has no bearing or adverse effect on me or my own 20-year marriage. So honestly, I’m not sure what all the uproar is about. (It's worth mentioning that the gay people who have been part of my life have been some of the nicest, most generous, most moral and of course most extremely tolerant people I've ever met.)

Against biblical concepts? I don’t buy it. There is the one verse from Leviticus, but as I recall the First Testament of the Bible also tells us it’s a sin to eat shellfish. Of course, I'm no Biblical scholar (despite my regular church attendance). But it seems to me that if homosexuality were such a big issue there might have been more than only one or two verses in the Bible addressing it. And I don’t think the Bible records Jesus ever saying anything one way or the other about it. Guess he was just too concerned with taking care of the poor.

Anyway, looking back on that long-ago experience in high school, I can’t say that I’d want to live that part of my life over again. But it did serve its purpose. The incident did play a huge part in shaping my progressive views on gay rights and marriage equality. 

Yes, I think I’d just soon leave that history behind.

But I am certainly thankful to be on what I consider to be the right side of history.

Got That Friday Feeling

Friday nights have always been sacred to me. Always. Ever since I was a little girl.

Friday nights are supposed to be enjoyed. Revered. Appreciated for what they are – the time of the week to wind down, relax, and do nothing if you please.

My fondness for Fridays began long before my working days. As a little girl I learned how special Fridays were. Of course, this was the early ‘70s, so half the population probably can’t relate when I reminisce about spending Friday nights watching The Brady Bunch and The Partridge Family (yes, original episodes when they were aired on prime time). No that there was that much else to watch. Who had heard of cable TV then? Besides, I had such a crush on David Cassidy that there was no way I was missing that show about the musical family with the multi-colored bus.

But it was more than just TV. Friday night was “popcorn and Coke” night.

Every Friday – long before the concept of air poppers or microwave popcorn – my Mom would make popcorn the old fashioned way. In the pot. Just pour a little cooking oil in the pot, pour in the kernels, wait for the oil to get hot, and, wah-lah, there’s popcorn. I recall how when the corn would start popping Mom would hold the lid on the pot, hold the handle and start shaking the pot. I’m guessing that was to keep the popcorn from burning.

And with the popcorn came the Coke. Not in two-liter bottles. The only way you could get Coca-Cola back then was in the smaller glass bottles, sans the screw-off lid. (Bottle openers were a must.) Coke with our popcorn was a big deal on Friday nights. It was the only time of the week that we were allowed to have soft drinks. To think that kids today take for granted such a treat as having a soft drink!

As a teenager Friday nights were a time for friends and fellowship. More than one slumber party took place in my basement on any given Friday night. The overnight parties started out as birthday surprise parties, then just regular birthday parties. Then just for fun. My basement was party central, in a clean-cut sort of way (pop and snacks only), and I remember staying up until all hours of the night, chatting and bonding with my friends about the “important” things in life (usually the talk centered around guys, and which ones we liked at the time).

Needless to say, my fetish for Fridays has continued into my adulthood. I really try not to do anything on Friday night, though I often have to cook dinner. On those occasions, at least I make sure it’s something I like – proper Friday night fare. In my childhood the Friday night meal was shrimp and French fries. Yes! Or Tacos, yes. Fish sandwiches, yes. Meatloaf, no. Meatloaf is a Sunday or Monday meal. As are pork chops. I have different foods labeled in my head as to what day of the week they should be served. (Fried chicken is always a Wednesday night meal; steak is always a Saturday night meal.)

It’s now Saturday, and as I sit here drinking my Diet Coke, I know I should start tackling some of the work I brought home with me this weekend. After all, Saturday isn’t Friday night. Chalk this blog up to procrastination, I guess, and a wish that it was still Friday. But alas, Friday night will come again (though I’m reasonably sure I’ll have to work late next Friday night, which is almost sacrilegious in my book.)

Last night, though, as the boys and I cleaned the kitchen from our Friday night fish sandwich dinner, my Friday Fever peaked to the point where I developed a hankering for popcorn. But there was no microwave popcorn to speak of in the house. Yet low and behold, I did have a package of popcorn kernels. Guess who made popcorn the old fashioned way? In the pot, finishing it off with lots of real butter for ultimate taste. The boys didn’t know popcorn could be made in such a way. Yet it turned out to be a hit with them. And my husband ate quite a bit of it too.

The experience sufficed for taking me down memory lane for just a few minutes at least. And it reminded me just how precious those Fridays have always been to me.

Not that every day isn’t a gift. But my fondness for Fridays will probably always remain steadfast. Friday is for family. Friday is for friends. No matter how bad the rest of the week, there’s always Friday night.

The Friday Feeling. It’s a good feeling. If only I could take it, bottle it up and sell it on the open market.  I expect that would make me a wealthy woman.

For the moment, though, I guess I’ll just stay poor. Poor, but rich in so many ways – with my health, my husband and my children.

And a healthy supply of weekly Fridays – for life.

Screw Diets

Did I ever mention that I hate diets? Normally I’m a proponent of portion control, because with restrictive diets all I ever think about is what I can’t have instead of what I can.

But right now I’m sort of in a state of desperation, as somehow over the last year and a half I’ve ballooned to the point to where I’m starting to grow out of my clothes. I need an emergency intervention – a quick change to get me going back in the right direction (that would be down).

So I caved to my own philosophy of just eating in moderation (which I, for the most part, think I do anyway – but because of my mostly sedentary lifestyle and lack of exercise I’m guessing my metabolism is in the toilet). I figured this called for extreme measures. Hence, I resorted to the “meal replacement” plan. Specifically, I chose the Atkins protein shakes – one in the morning for breakfast, one in the afternoon for lunch, a “sensible” dinner low on carbs, and an Atkins protein bar for a bedtime snack. The plan can be excruciating at times, but at least it’s simple.

Early results were promising. Four pounds in the first three days. Yay! So I set a goal for myself – that in the next six days I would lose only two more pounds to reach my initial goal. Did I follow the meal replacement plan to the tee? Well, no. Last weekend I pretty much bypassed it and consumed real food, but ate very little. And two days ago my hunger did give in. I succumbed to the temptation of fried chicken and mashed potatoes. But otherwise, I was good.

And today was the magic day. The day I was supposed to get on the scale and feel the satisfaction of reaching my goal – six pounds total lost. Except that didn’t happen. I not only didn’t lose those additional two pounds, I actually gained a pound back, making for a net total of three. That’s only half my goal. Bummer.

Thing is, I was so certain that I had lost those two additional pounds. Your mind plays tricks on you. Sort of a psychosomatic response to all of your hard-fought efforts. (“Are my clothes feeling a little looser? Why, yes, I think they are!”)

So today I rebel. I ate real food for breakfast – just a modest bowl of Special K, but one I would have deemed a cardinal sin of late. A leftover piece of fried chicken for lunch. And now I’m nursing a tasty glass of white wine – chock full of carbs. Tonight I eat pizza.

And what will tomorrow bring? Right now my attitude is “screw diets.” But I really am trying not to get discouraged. And I really can’t afford an entirely new wardrobe. So I guess I’ll try to gather my thoughts and try to figure out what I need to do to get this done.

As I said, my metabolism is probably shot because I know I don’t exercise enough (OK, hardly at all). So maybe I need to incorporate some additional activity into my plan. So what’s the answer here? Will a daily walk around the neighborhood do the job? Or maybe I need to join a gym? Hmmm. Personal trainer, maybe? Whoops, we’re getting into some big bucks there.

Guess I’ll take my measly three-pound loss and go from there. I do have goals – immediate, short-term and long-term. I’m so disappointed I didn’t hit my immediate goals. But don’t want to give up. That means I’ll just get fatter.

Yes, I think I’ll continue on this journey and see what another day brings. But tonight time stands still. Tonight I’ll enjoy just one more glass of wine and some pizza to boot. Just a small reward for trying so hard the past 10 days. (Just wondering how many of those three pounds I’ll put back on tonight!)

And then tomorrow I move forward. Another day, a new beginning.

 

Breaking Ties

Cutting ties with the past: all of my old clothes,
ready for the charity pile

I went down memory lane this afternoon. Most people might do this by flipping through a photo album or watching home videos. But for me it was just a matter of scrounging through my closet (or closets). Time to do some cleaning out, I decided. But, oh so hard, because of the emotional ties I have with my clothes.

Did I mention that one of my favorite shows is Hoarders? And the more extreme the hoarders are, the more intrigued I am. I always thought the reason I liked that show was that it maybe gave me some sick feeling of superiority. I figured that compared to those people on that show, my house is absolutely pristine. So what if there might be an occasional dust ball or two in the corners, or that my kids’ closets are disaster areas? At least my house is inhabitable. How people could let their dwellings get that way has been a source of fascination for me.

So what does that have to do with my clothes? I realized today that going through and pitching my old clothes was a more difficult task than I thought it would be, simply because of the sentimental ties I had with particular pieces. Isn’t that what hoarders do? They develop emotional connections with their “stuff,” even the trash, to the point where they can’t bear to throw it out. Today I had my own amount of “trash” to sift through. Guess I’m a clothes hoarder.

They say that if it’s been over a year since you’ve worn something, you should get rid of it. Some of the stuff I wafted through today dated back 25 years. Good thing my kids weren’t home as I was doing this. I can just hear them now. “Hey Mom, the 1980s called and wants its clothes back.” So what sorts of garments took me down memory lane today?

·        Probably the oldest garb in my closet (well, in my son’s closet) was the suit that my mother bought me when I was a senior in college. That would be 1986. She bought me the suit so that I would have something to wear on interviews. Let’s see…I probably haven’t worn that suit since 1990. But hey, it was my first suit. How could I possibly get rid of that?

·        Really neat dress pants that I bought at Casual Corner when I was just out of college. They were expensive. In fact, I put them on layaway (do they even have that now?). Those pants got plenty of wear until I had my first baby in 1995. Then, for some reason, they didn’t fit anymore. They’re classic trousers so they don’t go out of style, so I’ve just been trying to get back down to size (for the past 18 years) so I can wear them again. Okay, time for them to hit the charity box. The same goes for all the other dress pants I had that are now two sizes too small. I guess I figure if I ever do get back down to size, by that time it would be such a big occasion I should treat myself to a new wardrobe.

·        The blouse that I wore on my first date with my husband. And the shirt that I bought special to wear on the second date with my husband. I remember those nights as if they were yesterday. And, yes, I remember exactly what I wore. The temptation was strong for me to keep these pieces, but I resisted and they are now bagged up and ready to go to their next destination.

·        My “skinny” red dress that I always thought I looked hot in – the one that I wore on Christmas Eve 1989, right after I liberated myself from a go-nowhere relationship with an old boyfriend. I did really look good in that dress. Unfortunately, I probably couldn’t slip the thing above my knees today. Out it goes.

·        My little black mini skirt – the one I wore in the early 1990s any time I wanted to feel sexy. Back then I had some pretty damn nice looking legs and made a point to show off those attributes whenever I had the chance. I first wore that skirt when my then-boyfriend (now husband) went on a double date with another couple who were married (whom I’d just met that night). It was near Christmas and we wined and dined and made merry. Too much wine, as it turned out. I found myself in my own self-imposed drinking contest with the other woman (a good friend today, might I add) and lost. By the end of the night I was sitting on the floor in front of a toilet in a bowling alley bathroom (with a Peter Pan hat on, complete with a feather in it and everything) throwing my guts up. Somehow, Ed managed to get me home. Still, the event didn’t dissuade me from wearing the skirt again and again. Wasn’t so much fun to go through that night, but I can chuckle now after so many years have passed. Unfortunately, I reasoned that I’m probably too old to wear a mini skirt now (not to mention that the wool fabric has a couple of small holes in it), so I have officially parted with the mini skirt.

These are just a few things. There are others – print blazers that were popular in the 1990s but not so much now; sweater vests that my grandmother knitted for me; professional clothes that I wore when I had professional jobs trying to climb the corporate ladder as a young whippersnapper. And maternity clothes (okay, I was ready to part with those).

So I went through memory lane one more time today, reminiscing as I pulled out each piece of old clothing. Yet I did something that I haven’t been able to do in all these years. I broke those ties with the past. Perhaps holding on to too much of the past has the capacity to clutter one’s life – even to the point where it crowds out potential for the future.

And they’re just clothes, right? Tangible stuff that can be replaced with more tangible stuff down the road. Thinking more about it, I guess the clothes are merely a trigger for the memories I already have. And the memories are always with me, despite what I may or may not have in my closet. In the end, maybe it’s not about the clothes at all, but what’s within me. Looking at it that way makes it easier to depart with my so-called “treasures” of the past.

On to new things I suppose. And remembering that the true treasures are not the tangibles, but the memories (good and bad) of times past. It’s those cherished, priceless memories – things that cannot be bought for any price – that make life worth living.

Still, if I can ever find another figure-flattering “skinny” red dress that makes me look mighty fine, consider me there.

Of Ballots and Beer, and Going Straight

It’s Saturday and Tuesday is Election Day. Which means one thing.

Stock up on the beer. Because on Tuesday, there will be nary a beer to be bought, at least until the polls close at 6 p.m. It’s part of Kentucky’s archaic law that bans alcohol sales on Election Day. The only other state that clings to this practice is South Carolina. So the policy’s Election Day blue laws do make our great commonwealth somewhat unique.

Apparently, there was some legitimate logic behind the law when it was first enacted. Some polling places used to be in bars (talk about a way to get the voters out!) and politicians would attend to “buy” votes with free drinks to the patrons. Thus, it provided reason for such prohibition.

Obviously, though, these days the law is outdated. Alcohol establishments no longer serve as polling places, though plenty of schools do. Perhaps voters could be bribed with crayons or mechanical pencils? So of late (just this year, in fact) there have been efforts within the state legislature to eradicate the law. So far those efforts have not been fruitful. So as of now, the law stands.

Actually, it really doesn’t bother me that I can’t buy alcohol on Election Day until after the polls close. Is the law stupid? Yes. But I figure I can survive one day (and a partial day at that) just fine without purchasing alcohol. It’s another thing that Kentucky doesn’t disallow that has me irked.

Straight ticket voting. Kentucky is one of only 15 states that allow straight ticket voting. Other states used to have it, but ultimately eliminated the option. Basically, straight ticket voting allows voters to choose a party’s entire slate of candidates by pushing a single button or making a single ballot marking on the ballot. Thus, with that one vote (or punch, or whatever type of ballot a particular polling place uses), a voter can vote for every candidate in a single party for each office on the ballot.

Wow, sounds convenient, right? No having to sort through all those names. But that’s just the problem.

My take on it is that if Kentucky expects its constituents to stay sober when voting (as is evidenced by banning alcohol sales on Election Day), then at the very least voters should be required to actually read the names of the people they are voting for. They may just find out by reading the names that someone who they would have voted for under a straight ticket is someone that they don’t want in office at all!

My other concern about straight ticket voting is that if voters mark a straight ticket, they may think they are done. Yet there may be other things on the ballot that they do not give attention to and won’t vote on because they voted a straight ticket. Such as local nonpartisan races. Or local referendums. Maybe even a constitutional amendment or two.

Thus, straight ticket voting may present a slippery slope to casting a ballot. As for me, I think I’ll actually read the ballot and encourage others to do so. It’s always good to know exactly who you are voting for.

Of course, I will vote this Tuesday – always proud to be part of the democratic process and have my voice heard through my vote. And on Tuesday night, as the polls close and the counts start to come in, I’ll be the first to want it, the first to do it, the first to say it. It will be a simple request.

Get me a beer.